Quarrels come to us (or IN us) because we want things to happen in our own way. There is a sequence: there is a desire in our heart (to be love, e.i.), then we meet a person and we spect him to love us, but he doesn't, so we get mad at him cuz he's not loving us. We are making him an idol, we are putting him right before God. All our desires must be under God's provision, otherwise we will get mad at things and people. God is our ultimate giver, provider, not people or things. If we wait 'til God's perfect time and space, we won't live a desperate life, quarreling against us and against others. It will be well for our souls to keep waiting on God's will.

James 4:1