2 Corinthians 5:14 ASV

I think that because of the nature of my relationship with Sara, somehow I am going to be "good enough" for her to take me back. (ie. Have enough money, lose enough weight, give the right gift, etc.) I need to realize that my best chance at attracting Sara to me, in a way that could create a marriage that would be long-lasting, is to be as close to my identity in Christ I can be. I don't want Sara's flesh or mind to be attracted to me. I want the Holy Spirit inside of her to compel her to be in a right relationship with me. This is the only hope I have of being married to her.

God help me to surrender to your identity, and Holy Spirit: act unhindered sternly and swiftly in me.