1 Corinthians 7:3-5
As a man obviously these are some of my favorite Scriptural passages in the Bible (wink, wink, nudge, nudge). As a man sex is on the brain a lot. However, the implications of these verses is more than just sex...it's more about submission to your spouse. I've done too much marriage counseling in my years as a pastor where the wife thinks she controls the amount of sex...or the man thinks that intimacy always involves whips, chains and power tools. Biblical submission in the confines of a marriage is more than that...it's a submission to God of your entire marriage...including your sex life. The Bible tells the man to love his wife like Christ loves the church. That means when she's sick, had a really bad day or extremely tired...love your wife more than your sex drive...and don't ask for sex. Give her a back rub, take care of the kids, dust the house or just hold her while she cries on your shoulder. On the other hand when a woman tells her husband "no"...she is in sin. That may not be politically correct in this day and age...but it is Scriptural. That doesn't mean she can't say, "The kids have been crazy, the day has been long...can we please make this a quickie?" God, love and trust are the Biblical basis for marriage. If you have a balanced relationship built on those three...then mutual submission will not be an issue...but instead a desire.
