I originally heard this in a series about marriage, but it applies to all relationships.

We walk into every relationship with something inside of us God has been wanting 2 pull out of us. As long as it is still inside, it will cause damage.

"God, what is it IN me that you want to pull out of me? Lord, I know the process will be painful, but I believe you when you promise it will prepare me for a new capacity to love that will blow my mind."

Philippians 2:1-15