People don’t make you unloving. People don’t make you unjoyful. People don’t make you unpeaceful. People don’t make you impatient. People don’t make you unkind. People don’t make you not good. People don’t make you unfaithful. People don’t make you ungentle. People don’t make you lose your self control. They just bring those traits out. As I once heard it put, we are tea bags, and when we are in hot water what is inside comes out. It doesn’t change. It just finally comes out.

Galatians 5:22-23