marriage is not compulsory
i so like the note "fruitful" by hadassahluv posted on 20130109, it shows that the way for a Christian to be fruitful is SPIRITUALLY FRUITFUL. That is showing God's love (agape, in koine greek, often translated into english as "charity" in KJV). You do not have to be in a sexual relationship with your neighbour to love your neighbour, just to be kind. You can love your grandmother and your dog, but no sane person would want/try to pressurize you into a sexual relationship with either.
So i wish the type of "so called christian" who thinks (in practice, whether or not he/she has ever put this attitude into words): "i have a marriage & children, so my life is full of love, i need not concern myself with anyone/anything outside the family, except perhaps looking down on my unmarried bretheren, patronising them (we, the married, are successes, they the single are "failed spouses"), we must therefore pair them off, if the poor little things can't find spouses, we had better find them for them. They had better not be ungrateful and reject the matches we make for them. or else! At their age they should be glad if anyone at all wants them/a husband/a wife - really, when you think about it, anyone of the opposite sex will do, and surely anyone's better than no-one? So lets pair them off, so they can be like us", grow up, i wish that sort would get their heads out of the cloud-cuckooland-family-sand where their heads spend so much time. And wake up, and realise that their single bretheren (of both genders) may be "happily unmarried", it's not necessarily a case of "can't find" , it may be a case of "won't find, wasn't looking", that their single bretheren do not find such people "successful & admirable role models" nor do the single want to be more like the self-righteously-married-solipsists, nor aping their "folie a deux" delusion of superiority. And it is not ungrateful to turn down unwanted, inappropriate matches that such self-righteously married people try to pressurise their single acquaintances into - it isn't "ungrateful" to refuse a match you don't want, it is "sensible" and "honest". You may reject a person as a spouse without rejecting him/her as a brother/sister. If you get rejected by someone (as a spouse), it does not make you "a reject human being" nor necessarily "inadequate/2nd class", it just means you were INAPPROPRIATE, or THAT SORT OF RELATIONSHIP WITH THAT PERSON WAS INAPPROPRIATE.
And its quite OK to want to stay "happily unmarried", and not looking for any marital match. It does not mean "so&so must be gay" either.
Because some people have forgotten that "marriage is not compulsory" (nor is breeding children). Now i am not saying "marriage/having children should not be allowed", it's fine for those who choose to marry each other to do so. i am just saying that it is not for everyone. Those who choose to marry are allowed to marry a consenting adult eligible spouse. But no-one may attempt to impose that CHOICE upon anyone who has not chosen it.
Opting out of marriage is not necessarily "because he/she prefers some sinful alternative sexuality" so let no-one jump to that conclusion/slander single people that way, without checking the facts first, that may not be the case. Some single christians think "singleness/freedom from an inappropriate match" is so good that "celibacy is a price well worth paying for that happily unmarried status". The single christian is no more likely to commit sexual sin than the married christian is likely to commit adultery!
So please, i am sick of some people saying "marriage is a creation ordinance, we have been commanded to go forth and multiply, so those refusing to have children are wicked disobedient sinners in rebellion against God..."(and so they go witter, witter, wittering on, saying things like that which actually are not in the Bible, despite the long jargon words they use).
We are not all commanded to have children. Fact. In this passage, God was talking to Adam & Eve, to 2 people only, not talking to the entire human race.
What Fact do i base that assertion on? Three Facts: (1) That Jesus was both fully divine and fully human. Therefore, on a physical level, he was a full member of the human race. (2) Jesus did not marry, nor did he conceive any child, during his entire time on earth. His life on earth was 100% celibate, 100% childless, every day of it. (3) He was tempted as we are, in all the ways humans are tempted, yet Jesus Christ alone did not sin, not once, ever.
Now if "unmarried celibate childless life" was "a wicked form of rebellion against God which disobeys a divine order to the entire human race", then if it was, in that case, Jesus would have been guilty of sin, as an unmarried, childless, celibate man. Fortunately for us, he never sinned - from that Fact we can conclude that unmarried celibate childlessness is not sinful. So we could reasonably conclude that God was speaking only to Adam & Eve, when he told THEM (but not everyone else who hadn't been born at that time) to multiply. Its quite logically consistent.
So "creation ordinance"? I don't think so (long words dont make anything right, especially long-wordy-terms not found in the Bible).
What the first 2 chapters do tell us about marriage/breeding children is: IF you are going to do marriage, it must be heterosexual monogamous and between adult humans (alternative forms of marriage/cohabitation/sexual practice not allowed). And IF you are going to have children, the only permitted way of doing that is within the permitted form of marriage at the time of conceiving them (not outside of marriage).
Note the "IF you are going to...." (not "WHEN you are going to ...... because you must, it's disobedient rebellious sin not to...." which would be a lie, it is not sinful to choose not to marry nor to choose to be childless).
As Christians, whatever we do should be done in a Christian way, according to Biblical rules & express guidance found in the Bible. Marriage (if to be practiced), must be done biblically. Singleness (if to be practiced), must be done biblically. Fortunately for us, there is enough biblical guidance for either state, and we ARE GIVEN A CHOICE.
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