Submission once again
It is interesting how Paul starts with the regards to wives submitting to the husbands. Yes I have written several times regarding submission as being such an ugly word for women and rightfully so, because there are many men that really abuses this passage.
I can see it now a man telling his wife; " You know what God tells you to do! You must submit to me and that is the bottom line. Let me read it to you dear!!! 'Wives submit to your husbands...' so just remember that, I am the head of this house hold!!!"
Now with an attitude such as I have described above, ladies, would you want to submit to your husbands? I can tell you mine would not. But the sad part, there are many ladies that do and i wish I could tell you why, but I can't. Maybe it is due to fear or they just don't really know what the scripture really states.
What man tend to do, and that really is a minority of men, they take this statement as a fact, but when you look over everything and see what it really is about, then just maybe men, your wives will submit to you.
The complete mini handbook regarding marriage here starts in verse 21; "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ."
Whoops, missed that one.
You see as the wife is suppose to submit to you, so are you to submit to her out of reverence for Jesus as both are to submit to Jesus. This is the beginning to learning how to gain the respect from your wives.
The main thing is that your wife is a daughter of the Lord and He is the one who brought you two together. The lord brought her to you to complement you, not for you to lord over her, because she probably won't put up with it much.
The Lord wants us men to love our wives, His daughters, as He loves the church. So what does that mean? Simple God loved the church so much, that He gave Himself to her, in the same manor, we are to love our wives as God loves us!
One of our duties is to protect her, just as Jesus is protecting the church this very day.
Once we realize that in order for our wives to respect and submit to us, we need to become more and more like Christ, thinking more of her, than our own well being, or basically placing her needs before ours. Once we do this and not lord over her saying I am the boss, she will submit to us because she knows that you will love and protect her like Jesus does the church. She'll know that she is loved by you.
So once you read, study and meditate on these verses then you will become complete and your relationship will blossom as it never has before.
Yes, submission is a very ugly word, but it doesn't have to be. If we both submit to Christ, because He is the head over all, and obey everything He teaches us, then submission will become easy for all involved because your wife will know that your love for her is just as Christ love for her is, unconditional!
Marriage is a lifetime journey, it is not some temporary thing. It takes work, because the enemy, and we all know who he is, has nothing better to do then reek havoc within it to separate you, and it a war zone, a spiritual war zone you enter the day you say I Do. He will twist Gods word for to miss understand, and do the opposite of what God intended, just like wives submitting to their husbands. He thrown temptations in your minds telling the grass in much greener on the other side of the fence, you get the picture.
For a marriage to last and weather the storms, trials and conflicts we will face, it has to be build on the rock, a solid foundation and who is that rock? Yeah you know it, the Lord Jesus Himself, because once we grasp His ways regarding marriage, then we can repel the stones and arrows Satan shoots our way to try and breaks us up. He is looking for a weak spot, a way to enter and destroy what God has brought together and by putting into the minds of husbands to lord over their wives, forcing them to submit is one of them. Remember I said forcing her to submit to your ways and that is not God ways.
So for you wife to submit gracefully to your leadership, "Love your wife as Jesus loves the church and gave Himself for her. Then the rest will fall into place as you take care of your wife as Jesus does the church. For she is one with you as you are with her as we are with Jesus as Jesus is with His Father.
As Paul states in the end of Ephesians 5;
For we are members of His body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery - but I am talking about Christ and the Church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
You want her to respect and submit to your leadership? Well get it together and become as Jesus and give yourself to her as Jesus continues to do for the His church. If you can submit to Him, then doing what He says about loving your wife, should come natural.