Week 1: Finding "The One"
Song of Songs 1:1-17; 2:1-17
1 This is Solomon's song of songs, more wonderful than any other. Young Woman: 2 "Kiss me again and again, for your love is sweeter than wine. 3 How fragrant your cologne, and how pleasing your name! No wonder all the young women love you! 4 Take me with you. Come, let's run! Bring me into your bedroom, O my king. " Young Women of Jerusalem: "How happy we are for him! We praise his love even more than wine." Young Woman: "How right that the young women love you! 5 "I am dark and beautiful, O women of Jerusalem, tanned as the dark tents of Kedar. Yes, even as the tents of Solomon! 6 "Don't look down on me, you fair city girls, just because my complexion is so dark. The sun has burned my skin. My brothers were angry with me and sent me out to tend the vineyards in the hot sun. Now see what it has done to me! 7 "Tell me, O my love, where are you leading your flock today? Where will you rest your sheep at noon? For why should I wander like a prostitute among the flocks of your companions?" Young Man: 8 "If you don't know, O most beautiful woman, follow the trail of my flock to the shepherds' tents, and there feed your young goats. 9 What a lovely filly you are, my beloved one! 10 How lovely are your cheeks, with your earrings setting them afire! How stately is your neck, accented with a long string of jewels. 11 We will make earrings of gold for you and beads of silver." Young Woman: 12 "The king is lying on his couch, enchanted by the fragrance of my perfume. 13 My lover is like a sachet of myrrh lying between my breasts. 14 He is like a bouquet of flowers in the gardens of En-gedi." Young Man: 15 "How beautiful you are, my beloved, how beautiful! Your eyes are soft like doves." Young Woman: 16 "What a lovely, pleasant sight you are, my love, as we lie here on the grass, 17 shaded by cedar trees and spreading firs."
1 Young Woman: "I am the rose of Sharon, the lily of the valley." Young Man: 2 "Yes, compared to other women, my beloved is like a lily among thorns." Young Woman: 3 "And compared to other youths, my lover is like the finest apple tree in the orchard. I am seated in his delightful shade, and his fruit is delicious to eat. 4 He brings me to the banquet hall, so everyone can see how much he loves me. 5 Oh, feed me with your love -- your 'raisins' and your 'apples' -- for I am utterly lovesick! 6 His left hand is under my head, and his right hand embraces me. 7 "Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, by the swift gazelles and the deer of the wild, not to awaken love until the time is right. 8 "Ah, I hear him -- my lover! Here he comes, leaping on the mountains and bounding over the hills. 9 My lover is like a swift gazelle or a young deer. Look, there he is behind the wall! Now he is looking in through the window, gazing into the room. 10 "My lover said to me, 'Rise up, my beloved, my fair one, and come away. 11 For the winter is past, and the rain is over and gone. 12 The flowers are springing up, and the time of singing birds has come, even the cooing of turtledoves. 13 The fig trees are budding, and the grapevines are in blossom. How delicious they smell! Yes, spring is here! Arise, my beloved, my fair one, and come away.'" Young Man: 14 "My dove is hiding behind some rocks, behind an outcrop on the cliff. Let me see you; let me hear your voice. For your voice is pleasant, and you are lovely." Young Women of Jerusalem: 15 "Quick! Catch all the little foxes before they ruin the vineyard of your love, for the grapevines are all in blossom." Young Woman: 16 "My lover is mine, and I am his. He feeds among the lilies! 17 Before the dawn comes and the shadows flee away, come back to me, my love. Run like a gazelle or a young stag on the rugged mountains. "
What SHE Is Looking For:
1. Character (He is a Christian)
2. Good Reputation
3. Friends and family approved
4. Values You
5. He Speaks Kindly Toward Her
6. Pursues You
7. Focused On Your Eyes/Face (Modest is hottest)
8. Financially Secure
9. Improves You
10. He Is Consistent
11. Makes You Feel Safe
12. Proud Of You In Public
13. He Sets The Sexual Standard
14. He Grows The Relationship By Dating You
15. Leads Through Conflic
Women: You want to marry a man and make babies, not marry a baby to try a make a man!
What HE Is Looking For:
1. Humble (She is a Christian)
2. Hard Worker
3. Holy Girl
4. She Has To Be Hot (Attraction) (There is a reason this is #4 on the list. If you get that inverted you are in trouble)
Guys Are Looking For A Proverbs 31 Girl: (P31 Model)
1 These are the sayings of King Lemuel, an oracle that his mother taught him. 2 O my son, O son of my womb, O son of my promises, 3 do not spend your strength on women, on those who ruin kings. 4 And it is not for kings, O Lemuel, to guzzle wine. Rulers should not crave liquor. 5 For if they drink, they may forget their duties and be unable to give justice to those who are oppressed. 6 Liquor is for the dying, and wine for those in deep depression. 7 Let them drink to forget their poverty and remember their troubles no more. 8 Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves; ensure justice for those who are perishing. 9 Yes, speak up for the poor and helpless, and see that they get justice. 10 Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is worth more than precious rubies. 11 Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. 12 She will not hinder him but help him all her life. 13 She finds wool and flax and busily spins it. 14 She is like a merchant's ship; she brings her food from afar. 15 She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day's work for her servant girls. 16 She goes out to inspect a field and buys it; with her earnings she plants a vineyard. 17 She is energetic and strong, a hard worker. 18 She watches for bargains; her lights burn late into the night. 19 Her hands are busy spinning thread, her fingers twisting fiber. 20 She extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy. 21 She has no fear of winter for her household because all of them have warm clothes. 22 She quilts her own bedspreads. She dresses like royalty in gowns of finest cloth. 23 Her husband is well known, for he sits in the council meeting with the other civic leaders. 24 She makes belted linen garments and sashes to sell to the merchants. 25 She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs with no fear of the future. 26 When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule when she gives instructions. 27 She carefully watches all that goes on in her household and does not have to bear the consequences of laziness. 28 Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: 29 "There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!" 30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised. 31 Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.
Proverbs 18:22; He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.
Become THE ONE the one you are looking for is looking for. Don't look at just your own list. You need to become the other list also.
Psalm 34:3; Glorify the Lord with me; let us exalt His name together.
M: Songs of Solomon 1
T: Songs of Solomon 2
W: Genesis 29:14-30
TH: Proverbs 31
F: 1 Cor. 6:14-18
S: Hebrews 13
- Joby Martin 1122 Service
Created 12 months ago