Authentic forgiveness is never cheap and doesn't always lead to reconciliation
Forgiveness doesn't always lead to reconciliation. Sometimes you can't reconcile because the other person isn't willing to own their part. The journey toward healing and the experience of forgiveness needs to be a safe journey. You can't build a relationship safely unless it's built on truth. If the other person is unable to recognize the nature of what they've done, then reconciliation is not possible. Remember:
* your goal is to be free from the stranglehold of bitterness and resentment
* your goal is NOT to find the approval or understanding of the person you are forgiving
* your goal is to find peace within yourself and with God in all of it
* you goal is NOT necessarily to find peace with the person you are forgiving
If the person you are forgiving is toxic and destructive, you may just need to let them go. Set them free. Wish them well. In the process you are setting yourself free. You have no more expectations of this person. You forgive them, but their control over your life is over. Sometimes, even though you genuinely experience forgiveness towards someone, they still may have to live with their own consequences. (Just because they return to their own vomit, doesn't mean you have to. And, just because you don't return to the old folly with them, doesn't mean you don't forgive them.)
This takes time and we will have to forgive over and over again. But, God is faithful.
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