Setting Boundaries
Gateway church equip notes.
Focus on setting boundaries around the light. Don't focus on the dark.
A healthy boundary lets us focus on the light. A boundary is a defining line, Separating me from others.
We must take responsibility for our values. When we sell out to please others we have crossed our boundaries.
We cannot set boundaries for others but we can limit our exposure to those people. God sets standards for us, not boundaries. The difference is that we can make choices to set/be an example and release others to God.
We are responsible for our talents and calling. When we are busy and let that business invade our priorities and calling we must reestablish our boundaries.
We don't own others emotional responses. This does not mean to not be considerate, but we should not try to position or manipulate the conversation to have them react a certain way.
We cannot make others set boundaries that match ours.
When there are grey fuzzy boundaries it gives an opening for a strong hold to attack our lives.
Emotional boundaries? What gets in and what stays out.
do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:6, 7 ESV)
Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life. (Proverbs 4:23 ESV)
Emotional boundaries keep the pearls inside and the pigs outside.
"Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you. (Matthew 7:6 ESV)
When I feel my emotional boundaries threatened the first question to ask of you I simply, "who am I" or "who are You?" you are where I get me identity and value. Others joking, judging or making fun does not deminish this. My insecurity is safe with you.
Reestablishing a relationship:
Hear God
Look within
Have I released the relationship
Have I grieved loss of the relationship
Have I let God transform me and my boundaries.
Is it safe/heathy to reestablish the relationship.
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