four foundational laws of marriage
Like physics there are laws.
The laws are not complicated.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. (Genesis 2:24, 25 ESV)
1: the law of priority - reprioritize our lives
When you stand at the alter innately we become protective and jealous. One of God's names is Jealous.
God made marriage to get better every year. It only works in first place.
Step proven in real terms not just words
Sacrifice - what will you give up?
Time - time is the commodity of relationship.
"if the devil can't get in front of you, he will get behind and push you too fast."
Technology is a good servant but horrible master.
Energy -
Attitude -
protect them from good things out of priority.
Even the ministry and serving can be out of priority.
Order of priority should be:
God, spouse, children, church, extended family, work and so on.
Families don't build around children, they build around the marriage/parents.
What needs to be known, "I will make what ever changes need to be made other than my faith in Jesus Christ."
2 the law of pursuit - to cleave is to pursue with all energy.
We work for something until it is secure and then we stop workin on it. That is not how it works, we need to work on it every day.
Soulmates are not born they are made. Two very different people who work very hard to stay together.
Emotions come and go - the best type of love is agape love, love by choice.
When the grass looks greener on the other side it's time to water your own grass.
When the grass looks greener on the other side it's because you can't see the poop from where you are.
Marriage works on the marriage principle. It needs to be renewed every day just as our relationship with God. If we do not talk with God we fall out of relationship with Him.
All points evaporate at midnight.
3: the law of possession - we share everything.
Marriage is about sharing: they shall become one.
It's our money, it's our time, it's all ours.
Dominance is wrong, it's not sharing. We share everything.
Independance and selfishness destroys marriage. Interdependence wins.
But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (1 Corinthians 7:2-5 ESV)
This is not a license for abuse, but instead a license for use.
4: the law of purity - they were naked until the fall.
When living in purity you can expose your most sensitive areas. We are all more sensitive than we admit. When you are responsible for each other and your own actions the fig leaves come off.
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